At the store today...

    O.K. So, I am at the store today and I run into an old friend....I havnt seen this girl since high school and that was wow that was almost two decades ago!! She was crying in her car and I didnt recognize her. But she got all cleaned up and got out about the same time I did and we kinda bumped into each other. She recognizes me. And she proceeds to tell me all about her life which is great we were pretty good friends until we just lost touch. She gets to her kids who are living in sin and using drugs and alcohol and her husband who is gambling and looking at porn. Ok. thats more information than I need but again, I get it, I dont know any of these people, her husband or children..so needs someone to talk to. I notice she has a cross neclase and I ask her if she wants to pray....thats the first time I have ever asked someone that too....the first time I have initiated prayer in public. Thats just for your information. So she does and so we pray in the parking lot at market basket! It was great. But when we were done I had in my heart some thoughts that were not mine. Things that I have never thought before. I told her. "I am sorry but I have in my heart some thoughts that I have to share with you. I dont know why because these are not my thoughts or words. I am not trying to pry or tell you what to do. But I have to tell you this. You shouldnt tell all your friends and family about all of this. Of course you need advice but pick just a few. And this is why...When you tell you friends and family about your problems with your spouse or children, they have feelings aobut what you say. You may get over it and work it out, go to therapy or just let God fix it if its not that serious, You may or may not forgive you spouse of child or whomever, but how does your friend forgive it? how can your mother look with love at your husband who is her son now when she knows he does these things and it hurts you so? You are asking your friends to choose sides, oh I know you dont say the words or have that intent but how can they not take a side when they see you in such pain?"

She just broke down and cried right there. She said she was thinking of talking to her mom who loves very much her husband...and the God was telling her to think about it a little more. Now I want to know how that got in my head?!?! I have never ever considered that or thought of it. It has never been a problem for me to talk to my friends and family about my problems.  And when I am in a situation like that, the one I am mad at is often not in my thoughts to protect! So how did that even come to me. There is no way for those words to be in my head....and I know beyond a doubt what I said was the truth and I will always follow that now as well....but HOW did it come to me??